Laundry.

What is it with laundry?
Why does it always seem to breed just when I think ive got on top of it?
Why are so many of my undies, bras and socks white and fiddly to hang on the line?
Why does someone decided to burn off just after I have hung it all out?
Why is it when my daughter cleans her room, I get MORE laundry and she expects me to be proud of her for cleaning it after a month?
Why do the kids need a new towel after every shower and create more laundry for me?
I use to love doing the laundry and ironing, how great freshly washed and line dried clothes smell and feel.
Now I work so many hours I find it a complete pain in the arse.
I need a housekeeper!!

XXX

Made me giggle!

Im now F!

Ohh yes that time has come, I am now FFFFFFFFFourty. 40. 40? 40? How the fuck did that happen?


So how did I celebrate it? Being a bloody slave to my family of course.

My sister in law V, who I will say I don't know very well as I have always lived away from Melbourne for the 10 yrs she has been in our family, decided that my brother, herself their 2 little kids and my Mum would come visit me for my birthday.

They came to my town on Friday, it was raining, great for our town of farms not great when you have a 4yo & a 2yo. I was expected to "entertain' everyone because they were on holidays..WTF?? it was MY birthday. They whined about everything. The pizza they ate that I paid for($65) was shit, the weather was cold and I had told them that we have had been having nice weather of late, none of the shops were open, (It was fucking Anzac day for fucks sake), they didn't want to go out for my birthday dinner and suggested that I cook them a BBQ, Pigs arse!! We went out for dinner, of which Pete and I paid for. Sunday we went to our farm, I drove, paid for all the fuel, drove them around the farm (Not all 33,000 acres of it though) cooked a BBQ, drove home, that was a total of 8 hrs driving.On the way home I got a phone call from SIL who said she had ordered Chinese food after we told her that we didn't want any as we were still full from lunch. I went in to pick it up on the way home, $81.00..Did anyone offer to pay?, NO! not including fuel, I spend $150 on dinner, drinks, ice creams etc just on Sunday.Not once did anyone offer to pay for anything!!! Then Monday I had changed my meetings to Tuesday so I could drive my Mum home so she wouldn't be squashed in the back of the car with 2 little kids. I ended up taking the little 4yo with me (who was a delight). Mum whined the whole way home, when I told her to shut up as I had had enough, she said to me, Well Cheryl You did want me to come with you. Well no Mum in fact I didn't I was doing YOU a favor.
When we got to Mum's, and gave the child back to her parents, Mum invited brother and SIL in they said, No cause they were too tired from the trip! FFS, I did all the driving, all the entertaining, and fucking paid for everything. They didn't even thank me for having them. I had to listen to constant digs at me such as, well you are now 40 Cheryl, you can't do this and can't do that, and your hair, it is way to dark, you look like a 40yo trying to be young again. (Mind you my Mum is 67 with bleached blonde hair! I was telling Mum how I was doing weight training, and I showed her my arms, she said, Hmm well I guess you don't look that bad.

Ohh my fucking god! I'm so bloody glad I live 6 hours away from my family!

Me Me

Hey Everyone!
Yep I am alive and kickin. Just SO busy. This working thing is just taking up so much of my time Ppfff.

This sweetheart has tagged me. Ok so now for some random stuff about me.

1. I'm a bit of a control freak. I like to organise everything. Much to my kids dismay, I drive them nuts about stuff like, You did put that express bag in the yellow express box?? The off spring are now 12 & 15, I think they know what the express box looks like. I need to chill out a bit!

2. I'm very fussy when it come to the cutlery I use. (Only at home)
I like my forks to not have long prongs on them. I have a special fork, its just mine, I get pissed if anyone use it. It's about 30yrs old, and almost had it. If for some reason this fork isn't around,I use entree forks. I eat my oats or ice cream with a teaspoon.

3. I am an all or nothing person. I'm perfect at what I do or else I don't do it. This needs to change, but at the same time I'm willing to give most things a go.

4. I really doubted myself when it came to running our company, but I'm seriously kicking arse. I have saved the company about $60grand a year already. I do love my job, just wish it didn't take up so much time, but the travel is fantastic.

5. We are in negotiations with an overseas company and if things workout we will be living else where for a while. Seriously early days yet.

6. I love living 6 hours from my family. I really love them but I don't have all the dramas that go along with it.

7. I'm very independent. If something has to get done, I will do it alone, I wont ask for help,unless I pay for that help. I hate to think I owe someone something.

8. I really enjoy my own company. I like to do my own thing, I don't like people just popping around for coffee or a chat without a call first. All my true friends know this. It's not cause I don't want to see them or anything like that, its just I'm not really pop in for coffee kind a person. I would NEVER just visit someone without calling. I love to catch up with people but more when it suits me.


9. I can't spell. Thank god for spellcheck. I just have to make sure it is on Aussie spelling or else im stuffed.

10. I turn 40 on Saturday. My family are coming to visit me. Whilst I know they are coming to be kind but they don't understand that they are creating more work for me. I should be visiting them, then when I have had enough I can come home. Selfish? you bet!


11. A wise lady once told me that when you turn 40 things change. She told me that you don't tend to care what people think of you so much.
For me this is SO true. I couldn't give a flying fuck what anyone thinks. My attitude to life and people in general has changed heaps since my husband affair last year. I think for the better. I'm a much better business woman, Mum and Wife. I do NOT take crap from anyone, Kids, Husband, or anyone else. If you shit me, usually it is like water off a ducks back. I don't care.. LOL I will speak my peace if I feel its worth it, most of the time it isn't.

So if you like this post, great, If not.. Well go fuck yourself...

XXX

Pig Hunters

I have just got a phone call from my husband who is at our Sheep Station in the arse end of nowhere. Someone has cut the fences and broken in to the house. Nothing was taken but it is going to cost $ and time to fix the fence. When you have large property the fencing goes for many Kms before there is a need for a strainer post. From this one cut we have to repair over 1km of fencing. Bugger.

Bloody pig hunters are to blame. Pig hunting is a very cruel sport, In fact its not a sport at all! These guys (mainly guys but I know of some women who do it too) Hunt the pig down using dogs, once the dog has the pig on the ground, the men (if you call them that) slit the pigs throat. Most of the time the die straight away but not always. Mind you this after the pig has been mauled by 3 or 4 pig dogs, bull mastiffs and the like. 9 times out of 10 the dogs get ripped up by the pig's tusks. The hunter then sews the dog up themselves How can you call that a sport. Yes the pigs are feral and are a pest as the dig huge wallowing holes and in numbers make paddocks useless for farming, but there is not need to be cruel. Yes we have pigs, yes we shoot them, NO DOGS or KNIVES!. Most of the people who do this are from larger towns or city slickers out for a cheap thrill. Not to mention the damage the hunters do to the farmers fencing, and trespassing is against the law!
Makes me sick!
XXX

Twittering

Hey All,

Anyone using Twitter?? I have recently signed up, still trying to work out how to use it and who would have time to update it all the time..LOL

Let me know if you have it and your user name so I can follow you. Stalker much?

Tom is now getting some mental health help. Our paed basically said to me, "I don't know what's wrong, he needs mental health help, call this number, your on your own sweetheart" But that will be $200 thanks. Thanks for nothing!

The local unit have bumped him right up towards the top of the list and is seeing someone Wed week. In the mean time I will have to just try and defuse any situations that arise. Tom went back to school today, first time in a week. He still has stitches in his hand until the end of the week.

I had a huge session with my new PT last Wed. She was so full on. I'm now feeling quite smug at the fact today is the first day I can sit on the loo without using my hands to lower myself down. She better slow down with this old girl or else I'm finding a new PT. I'm averaging one workout a week as I'm too bloody sore after seeing her to do anything else.

XXX

Hard Day Relived or is it Ground Hog Day?

I'm sitting here in my swish office thinking about yesterdays events.

It all started when Lucy wanted to borrow Tom's earphones, after much name calling and yelling the kids came out to me in the office to tell me all about it. I asked Tom to lend them to her. Of course he said no. They went back in to the house. 5mins later I hear screaming to see Tom coming out the back door covered in blood. Lucy had called Tom names he went in to one of his meltdowns and punched one of our glass antique doors and smashed it.
Once again we were at the hospital. 5 stitches and lots of blood later we are home.

I am seriously not coping with Toms temper. We are forever having people here fixing things he has broken or smashed. He couldnt find his pencil case the other day and kicked in the kitchen cupboard. We hardly have any flyscreens left as he kicks them out so he can get out of the hosue and run away. We live in a house worth $800k, he has no respect for anything we have worked so hard for. During last week I asked him to do something, he pushed me out the way and hit me in the mouth splitting my lip. I honestly think he didn't mean to hit me that time.
I'm so sacred he is going to have a meltdown and seriously hurt himself or hurt or maybe kill someone else. I honestly fear for my and others safety.

I'm at my wits end, I'm seriously considering giving him up. This is so hard to write.
I just don't know what to do! Please remember that I'm doing all this as more or less a single mother as my husband is away for work 6 days a week.

I'm waiting for the paediatrician to give me a call with some ideas.

XXX

Im Cold

It is so bloody cold here today! It is 19deg! I'm freezing my arse off. (I wish weigh loss was that simple) We have had 30+ for months now. I hate winter. Hate it with a passion. Mind you I always get my fitness up and loose all my xmas weight over winter, wanna know why? because its so cold I don't socialise as much. Quite social life = less drinking = less drinking food = slimmer Cheryl!

On a brighter note, I'm living in a calm house right now. Tom's higher dose medication has kicked in. Mind you he still is only on a relatively low dose anyway.
I now have my loving, caring, funny, young man back. AHHHH I can breath again.
When he is like this he can cope with the teasing. Fingers crossed it will stay this way for a while.
I hope its warmer where you are. Gym spin class time for me!

XXX

VERY VERY HARD DAY!!

Today was horrific to say the least. As I'm sure you are aware I have a son Tom who has high functioning Autism. Tom is 12yo about 5'6 and 63kgs. He is taller than me. He has just started yr 7. Autism kids (and adults) really cant cope with change. For some it is something as small as the teacher being sick and having a replacement. This whole new school and routine thing has really upset Tom. So far since school has started in late January, Tom has been suspended once and been in way too many fights. He gets picked on at school and was beaten up by 3 boys on the bus last week. People with Autism don't have very good social skills. They don't understand the unspoken rules of life, if you know what I mean.

This morning Tom had a complete meltdown. He was throwing punches at me, calling me a slut and a whore and anything else he could think of. All because he wouldn't get off the computer to have a shower before school. I finally got him in the shower, dressed, and in the car. On the way to school,I was hit in the head, spat on and called names. When I stopped at the school he tried to drag me in the back to beat me up. I just kept thinking I need help. So I drove straight to the hospital. Tom wouldn't get out of the car. I told them in emergency what happened, with that 3 ward guys came down, drove the car around and carried him in to the hospital. I cried so much. It killed me to see that happen to my child. After an injection he calmed down and was himself again. The paediatrician came down to see him. He is our private paed, I called him earlier this year because I knew the medication wasn't working as Tom had grown so much since his last check up. i tried to get an appointment but couldn't get in to next month. Our health system is that bad! I have private cover,I almost $200 each time to see the doc and I still have to wait 3 months to see him.
We have agreed on changing his medication, time will tell.
It is now almost 8pm and Tom is still sleeping off the drugs.
My heart breaks :(

Wedding Announcment

I can FINALLY tell you all some news.

Some of you may know TinyDonna, who use to blog sometime ago.

I received this email:

Last night Andy and I announced to the family that we were married on 18th November 2008 in Murray, Kentucky.



We eloped at the courthouse and were married by a judge.



We are very happy and plan to live in Australia together for the foreseeable future. Andy is currently living with our family in Boronia and we will look at moving out after we get immigration sorted in early April.

I promised Donna I would not tell until she had told her family.

I am so thrilled for both her and Andy. Please feel free to leave any comments for her on here, Im sure she will check!

Ring hanging out!

OMG!! life goes from bloody boring to having my ring gear hanging out! (Ring gear hanging out is one of my husbands saying! I don't know what being busy has to do with your arse showing *shrug*) I haven't had a day off for 2 weeks, I need to say NO! I worked all week within the company, then I worked for a friend in her truck stop for 12 hours on Saturday. She said she just needed to pop over to a larger town to do some shopping. As I said 12 hours later she came back. Talk about take advantage! When I say working, I mean I was cooking and cleaning all bloody day! Then I had to drive 2.5hrs home. Sunday I caught up on work I didn't get done on Friday. I had to be in Yass at 9am on Monday for a meeting, which meant a 4am start. Hey Jen, I should have driven a little longer to catch up with you! I got home after 6pm, then yesterday I had a meeting in Gundagai, yeah you know where the dog is on the tucker box? got home at 7pm. Today is a leisurely day in the office. I feel I need a months sleep to catch up. A few early nights is in order I think. Whist all this is going on my Son got the crap beat out of him by 3 bigger kids (2 girls & 1 boy) on the bus. He wouldn't go back to school until today :( I have an appointment with the Principal to see what can be done. And at long bloody last my daughter has a job! I have been nagging her to get a job so she knows the value of money. The poor kid is at Macca's for about 6 bucks an hour. It goes up after 3 months to about $9.00. I think its really important for kids to know how hard money is to earn. A valuable lesson for a 15yo.

love to all

XXX

Still alive.

Life is SO busy! Right now I hardly have time to scratch my arse, but I'm not complaining. Work is flat out, I mean seriously flat out. I have been to Melbourne twice in the past 2 weeks, I'm off to Yass on Monday. I'm so loving my job. I no longer feel like a brain dead Mum , who worked now and then. I'm seriously kicking arse. I was so scared when we closed out Tas office, I thought I was too dumb to do the job. I'm a fucking champion (this is what my husband called me the other day).
Talking about offices, mine is finally finished. 20grand later *sigh*. I'm really thrilled at how it turned out. I will take some pics for you.

Driving down the Hume hwy, I was blown away by the fire damage you could see from the road. Houses completely flat, others just burnt out shells, and the home next door not touched. My heart goes out to everyone involved.

My cousin (by marriage)lives in Kinglake. Her home is OK but they stayed in a paddock for 2 days thinking everyone around them was dead. They are very traumatised.

We donated $500, and I always put change in a collection tin, I have the feeling I need to do more. These poor people. I really hope the government is thinking about these people's mental health. Just heartbreaking.

Anyway enough for now...I'm alive, life is good, busy busy, my kids are driving me nuts! Life is great!

XXX

Ode to Miss K's cat.

After the bloody funny post Miss K had on her blog today, This is for Izzy!
(Infact its me wearing my size 8 shorts!!)

Isn't this the truth?

An Obituary printed in the London Times.......


An Obituary printed in the London Times........ Interesting and sadly
rather true

Today we mourn the passing of a beloved old friend, Common Sense, who
has been with us for many years. No one knows for sure how old he was,
since his birth records were long ago lost in bureaucratic red tape. He
will be remembered as having cultivated such valuable lessons as:
Knowing when to come in out of the rain; Why the early bird gets the
worm; Life isn't always fair; and maybe it was my fault.

Common Sense lived by simple, sound financial policies ( don't spend
more than you can earn ) and reliable strategies ( adults, not children,
are in charge).

His health began to deteriorate rapidly when well-intentioned but
overbearing regulations were set in place. Reports of a 6-year-old boy
charged with sexual harassment for kissing a classmate; teens suspended
from school for using mouthwash after lunch; and a teacher fired for
reprimanding an unruly student, only worsened his condition.

Common Sense lost ground when parents attacked teachers for doing the
job that they themselves had failed to do in disciplining their unruly
children.

It declined even further when schools were required to get parental
consent to administer sun lotion or an Aspirin to a student; but could
not inform parents when a student became pregnant and wanted to have an
abortion.

Common Sense lost the will to live as the churches became businesses;
and criminals received better treatment than their victims.

Common Sense took a beating when you couldn't defend yourself from a
burglar in your own home and the burglar could sue you for assault.

Common Sense finally gave up the will to live, after a woman failed to
realize that a steaming cup of coffee was hot. She spilled a little in
her lap, and was promptly awarded a huge settlement.

Common Sense was preceded in death, by his parents, Truth and Trust, by
his wife, Discretion, by his daughter, Responsibility, and by his son,
Reason.

He is survived by his 4 stepbrothers;
I Know My Rights
I Want It Now
Someone Else Is To Blame
I'm A Victim

Not many attended his funeral because so few realized he was gone. If
you still remember him, pass this on. If not, join the majority and do
nothing.

Bloody Mornings

You know it's time to clean out your pantry when you reach for the oats and the maple syrup (sugarfree of course) hits the floor and explodes with a container of pasta quick to follow.

FUCK!!!!

Is this a sign of the day to come???

XXX

The Week That Was

Hey All,
I trust you had a fantastic Aussie Day! Aussie Aussie Aussie!
I went to the tennis on Tuesday night. It was fantastic. It only took me about 16yrs to get there. We saw Sam Stouser and Raffa!! My meeting went well on Wednesday morning, then I went home on Thursday. Worked all day Friday then off to the farm on Sat until Aussie day.
The builder has finally turned up and I now have half a wall and celling. We are waiting for the electrician to come then the plaster can do his bit, then the Air con guy, then the painter, then the carpet layer. At this rate I should be in my new office in about 2101! It was all suppose to be finished before Christmas.
Bloody tradesmen!! Bloody men in general!

The above pic is of my sister in law and yours truly at the tennis.

Our company has won a contract in Melb, so it should start about late Feb/Early March. You beauty, besides the financial bonus, it is so great to spend some more time in Melbourne. I'm a Melbourne girl though and through. I lived there for the first 25 yrs of my life. Love it. We will move back one day, there are many other places I would like to live first.

The runt of the litter starts high school tomorrow. How in the hell do I have my 2 babies in high school when im only 21? :)

Bed for me now.

XXX

COME ON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm going to Melbourne tomorrow for a few days. I have a meeting on Wednesday morning, but the most exciting thing for me is I'm going to the Australian Open tomorrow night.
According to the news I will be seeing Lleyton Hewitt v Fernando Gonzalez. I'm not sure who is playing in the woman's draw. I have been wanting to go to the tennis for about 16yrs now. Usually something comes up such as, me living in Tassie for 11 yrs or saving money for school fees.
So look out for me, I will be the one in the nosebleed seats waving like a mad woman.
Okies, best get on with my day!

XXX

Rainbow

Your rainbow is strongly shaded green and white.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What is says about you: You are an intelligent person. You appreciate quiet moments. Those around you admire your fresh outlook and vitality. People depend on you to make them feel secure.

Find the colors of your rainbow at spacefem.com.

Friend or Foe?

I have this person in my life at the moment. I’m not sure if she is friend or foe, I will let you be the judge.
Let’s call her R. She doesn’t know I blog so I doubt very much she will find out about this.
I have known her for about 2 yrs now. I met her when she worked at the local post office, as I don’t have mail delivery here; I’m at the PO every day. She use to work fulltime there but has since had a baby. She is 11yrs younger than me at 29. Before she had her baby we use to “do” lunch about once a month, sometimes chatted on the phone but that was about it.
Since she has had her baby a little over a year ago now she has been what my husband calls stalking me.
At first I thought it was because she was lonely at home with a bub, but now I’m not so sure.
She calls me EVERY day. Not just once but about 5-6 times a day. Once we spend 6 hours together at a garden show and then when she got home she called me. Most of the time she talk about herself and things that are happening in her life. IE: child, husband and in laws.
When I had lost my license she would call me to see if I wanted anything when she was out or needed a lift, which was nice but I’m a VERY independent person, and usually don’t ask for help even if I really need it. If there is something I can't do myself, I will pay someone. It has got to the stage that I would walk most places just to be away from her.
A few weeks back I was about to go out with my husband when the phone rang. It was her; thanks to the number being displayed I didn’t answer it so I could go out. A few hours later when we got home, I kid you not we didn’t even have time to put the handbrake on when she was behind me in our drive.
She got out and said,
R: ohh you didn’t answer my calls.
Me: Yes R because I wasn’t home.
R: but you didn’t answer my texts
Me: I didn’t have my phone with me.
R: Ohh ok then.
Me: Is everything ok.
R: yes I just missed you, that’s all
With that husband said, well I will leave you two to catch up, I’m going in the shed.
This is what it is like with her.
She has even been know to call when I wasn't home and my daughter answered tell her I wasn't home. Then 10 mins later she will call back blocking her number to see if I answer.
She knew for Xmas I was getting a Kitchen aid mixer, Guess what she put on layby the day after? She copied my cake stand. She read the books I read. I really think the only reason she doesn’t dress like me is that she is about 6ft tall and about a size 18-20.
Its all getting a bit too “single white female” for me.
We were both going to this fundraising function (it was seriously about 500m from my home)a girl who would have to drive past my home offered to pick me up, but she mentioned it to R, R said to me that she was pissed off that the other person had offered when she knew that R and I were friends.
Now I’m working fulltime for our company, and remember my office is at home (Yes still in the house has the fricken builder still hasn’t started the wall in the cottage) She just doesn’t seem to understand that I’m WORKING. I can’t talk on the phone all day about nothing.
When I say I’ve got to go (100% of the time is my saying I’ve got to go) I usually say I will call you back later. If I don’t call back by the arvo she calls me and says. We (as in the baby and her) thought you forgot about us. No stalker I was BUSY!!!!!
I think she has a good heart but just too full on for me.
I have told her that I’m working so I can’t catch up/talk as much on the phone any more. She has back off to about 2 calls a day.
Sigh.
I think I need to run for the hills, Shame is it so fucking flat around here… LOL
What should I do?????

Picking finished for the year!

Yay! All of the oranges are picked for this season.
Number of injuries this season:
*2 Wasp stings
*Countless ant bites, One bit me on my eye ball! I kid you not, I was looking up and it fell in under my glasses. The little bugger wouldn't let go even when it was dead. It took a pair of tweezers to dislodge the fucker! It hurt like hell!!!
*Way too many bruises.
*1000's of scratches. Did you know orange trees have thorns on them?? I bet you didn't.
*Not one ladder fall.
All this was just me, the others had pretty much the same except for the ant in the eye *Grin*
We have Valencia oranges.We sell them for juice.
So think of all the poor pickers when you pour your morning juice.
We decided to pick our own this year, as with all farming there is bugger all earned when we sell it on. I really don't mind picking , I just hate the wildlife..LOL
We have almost organic fruit, I say almost as I'm not 100% if there are any sprays or treatment in the water. We will be spraying and fertilising this year, will make for a much better crop.

Okies Bed for me now!

XXX

FINE IN 09!!

So, have you noticed that almost all of the blogs started a post off with SO at a little while back? Funny how everyone copies each other, like a fad.
Well I’m going to FINE in 09!! That is my motto for the year. As you know I had the year from hell last year.
That was then and this is now.
All is good here. I spent my Xmas time off from my usual job crutching sheep and cutting firewood!
The life of an entrepreneur is not an easy road, let me tell you.
We have 3 businesses at the moment. Our main company of which shall remain nameless. We have our sheep station and also an orange orchard. We are picking as we speak. One thing about my life is it is far from boring. One day I’m handling an OH+S issue or writing a QA policy, the next I’m drenching sheep.
At the moment I’m sporting a stunning (NOT) 63kg frame. I kid you not when I stand in front of the mirror in my undies and bra I look like a fricken Christmas cracker! I have only put on about 4kgs but since I haven't exercised for a while my arse is going south. I do have plans though. Im going to do one of those 12 week thingies. 12 weeks will be great as on the 25th of April I turn 40!
I have been reading everyone’s blogs but as always not saying too much. I really need to comment more I think.
Kids are driving me nuts so I know all is well with them.
Husband is great! I still have a new husband.
My office is coming along. Well that is if the bloody builder cares to show his face and make a start on the wall. I have brand new office furniture all unused as it is so hot at the moment (40deg+) and the air con cant be fitted in the office until the wall and painting is done, I’m still running the company from our dinning room. *sigh* Thank god I don’t have any meeting planned here in the next few weeks.
I will post pics of the lovely little cottage on our property that we using as our office.
So signing off now,
Happy New Year and remember I’m FINE in 09!!!